Home » My Rants & Recommendations » A Post About Commenting, From a Blogger’s Perspective.

A Post About Commenting, From a Blogger’s Perspective.

This post about commenting will give you an idea about what it feels like to read your comments from a blogger’s perpective.

Sticky Toffee Pudding Bowl
Sticky Toffee Pudding

Commenting on Sticky Toffee PuddingThere’s no new recipe today.

Instead, I’m going to share something a little different. I’m going to write about something many bloggers struggle with, in an attempt to let you understand what’s going on on the other side of the computer, so to speak.

I’m talking about comments; yes, the messages you, as readers, leave below our recipes, stories, photos, on Facebook posts, Instagram shots, and tweets–you get the picture.

Instagram screen shot in my post about commentingThese may seem inconsequential to you, but to a blogger, especially a blogger who has spent…

  • 1/2 – 3 hours going to the grocery store to buy ingredients he/she didn’t have in order to make a dish, or looking for specific equipment needed for that recipe
  • 1 – 3 hours making and shooting photos of each individual step
  • 1 – 2 hours cleaning up (I’m a messy cook!)
  • 1 – 2 hours uploading and editing those aforementioned shots
  • 3 – 8 hours writing, researching and editing the actual post and recipe

with no monetary compensation, it means a lot.

Sometimes we carry our creations up mountains for photo shoots, and that’s not included in the time frame!

Christinas Cucina Paul Hollywood book sign

In fact, most of the time, comments are the only reward we receive, and that’s if they are complimentary. This means for each post, most of us are spending 4 1/2 to 14 hours working without pay, and that doesn’t include the time we spend promoting it on social media to lead readers to our sites.

Why Bloggers Love Positive Comments

Those 50 words that April wrote below my sticky toffee pudding recipe post (top photo) made my day.  However, most readers never comment, and I do understand why, because it takes time to do so and many of us just feel so rushed all the time that we don’t do unnecessary things, like comment on blogs.

However, if you come to my side of the the blogging world for just a moment, you’ll also understand why it’s so frustrating for bloggers not to hear from readers, or to only receive negative feedback after all of our hard work. It doesn’t take much to give a little in return in appreciation for the work we do on the recipes, reviews and articles we post.

Comments such as Adrianna’s are so enthralling to receive; it’s truly a tonic!

Adrianna's complimentPicture this scenario: you are doing your job without a paycheck (or 5% of what you’re currently earning), and no one really acknowledges you, or better yet, berates you for how you are doing your job. This is how it feels to me when I receive a comment dictating that my recipe is wrong, made incorrectly, didn’t turn out properly due to their mistake, or even worse, attacking me personally (it’s happened.)

Of course there are some bloggers who do well monetarily with their sites, or get so popular that they cannot respond to all their comments. Then the shoe’s on the other foot and the reader is the one who’d love to get a response from that celebrity blogger, for example.

Poires au Chocolat
photo courtesy of Poires au Chocolat

Look at this lovely comment from a reader on the very last post on one of my favorite sites, Poires au Chocolat, when Emma had posted that she was retiring her blog~

Poires au Chocolat comment
I think it’s such a shame that Jeannette never expressed her feelings to Emma about her blog earlier to let her know how much she enjoyed it. Who knows if Emma ever saw this comment?

Another reason bloggers love comments below our recipes is so that readers can look at others’ opinions of the recipe. When you see lots of comments saying how great my sausage roll recipe is from lots of random commenters, doesn’t it make you feel as though it’s a more reliable recipe? I know I do. It’s like reading the reviews on Amazon before purchasing a product, or Tripadvisor comments before booking a hotel.

Tongariro Chateau Hotel
Tongariro Chateau Hotel, New Zealand

I wanted to add to this post about commenting, that if no one comments on our posts, there’s no barometer for other readers to know if it’s a good recipe, other than taking the blogger’s word. I know I pride myself on putting the best quality, tried and tested recipes on my site, but it’s great when readers tell me it worked for them in their kitchens, too.

Hidden Readers

I can’t tell you how many times someone has said to me, “Oh, I made your Sicilian whole orange cake recipe and it was amazing!” or “I make your 5 minute lentil soup all the time and my family loves it!” or “I love your blog. I really enjoy your writing and pictures”, but I had no clue they were even looking at my site.

Of course, this most often comes from a few friends, family members, and acquaintances and I am dumbfounded that they don’t write me a little note below the recipe just to say so. I mean, it’s me, they know me–so why so “hush-hush”? I don’t know, but after talking to many other bloggers, the consensus is: our family and close friends are our worst fans/readers. Most of them don’t even follow our blogs, which is why it’s so easy for me to write this–they’ll never see it!

Then there are readers who use our sites, make a few or many recipes, and never leave a review–until, they leave a 2 star rating (out of 5 stars) on a recipe that they made incorrectly (I know this because it’s an old Scottish recipe that’s been passed down for generations). She never felt the urge to say “thank you” or let me know about all the other recipes she used that worked well, but then left this:

Let me say up front, I’m experienced baker & love to try new recipes if old favorites. Shortbread being one of my faves! However, This recipe didn’t work. It doesn’t have near enough butter…I can’t really give an accurate rating on taste, since I ended up adding butter after the flour was put in. Maybe just a typo? I have enjoyed many of your other recipes.” – D

Do you feel this is fair?

why bloggers hate Facebook

WHY MANY FOOD BLOGGERS HATE FACEBOOK

Then there’s the nemesis of almost all bloggers: Facebook. Facebook used to be great; they used to share our posts with all, or almost all of our followers, but later decided to go a different route and charge us to have that happen. So this post about commenting isn’t only about commenting.

Facebook Boost post
Most of us cannot afford to spend $60 to have something like this cream of mushroom soup post be seen by all of our readers; and as you can see, Facebook showed this post to only 392 of my over 12,400 readers. Nice, huh?

Cream of Mushroom FB post

Clicking “like”, sharing or commenting (which includes just an emoticon, like a smiley or thumbs up) helps keep us in readers’ news feeds, but if we don’t ask, and I hate to ask, it doesn’t happen, except for a handful of super great readers who always “like” and comment (thank you, Dottie and others; you know who you are)!

And of course I’m not implying that readers should write a comment on every single post you see, it’s just that a lot of loyal readers never comment or give feedback.

Dottie comments

Comments We’d Rather Not See

Once in a while, we will receive a nasty comment, something hurtful or rude and it is hard to completely ignore it, but we try. Even just reading “yuck” on a post, after all the work we’ve done can feel like being hit below the belt, so please, think twice before writing something that actually doesn’t accomplish anything.

If you don’t like something, I’d advise looking for another recipe or photo that you do like. We’re offering a free service, and it just doesn’t seem fair to be chastised for it, don’t you agree? Megan at Country Cleaver wrote a post describing how these comments can spiral out of control. It’s simply unnecessary.

Re: Companies and Bloggers on my Post About Commenting

To add insult to injury, many times companies will approach bloggers and ask us to create a brand new recipe and blog post (the time for creating a new recipe is not included in the list above) in exchange for a handful of coupons for their $4 product, or better yet, for “exposure” on their site. Where else in the business world does a company expect another company to work for free?

I can’t finish this post about commenting without mentioning the wonderful companies which truly value bloggers, such as the Idaho Potato Commission which even features bloggers on their site (you’ll find me there)!

(May 22, 2015) I am editing this post to add another company which really appreciates bloggers, Tieks! If you’ve never heard of them, you will and it’s because not only is their product fabulous (Italian leather ballet flats), but just look at this surprise gift they sent to me as a thank you for supporting their company!

This beautiful Tieks hat box held a Thrive Market Gold lifetime membership and gift card, Alex and Ani bracelet, Thirdlove gift card and lingerie, Yogitoes mat, Coola sunscreen, custom Tieks notebook, Anastasia Beverly Hills make up, Philosophy moisturizer, Sprinkles cupcake mix and two tickets to a Broadway show (yes, in New York City!) It also included a lovely personalized hand written card, which to me really is the icing on the cake! I love Tieks, and now I know the feeling is mutual!

Tieks and Thrive surprise in a hat box
Our Favorite Commenters

On the other hand, sometimes a reader sends in a photo of something they made with one of our recipes and that is the absolute best! Seeing our recipes “in action” is brilliant–I mean, just look at these doughnuts!

Dimples and Delights' doughnuts
photo courtesy of Dimples and Delights

Whether each blogger is writing and posting as a hobby or as a means to support their family, or is going in the red for their page or making thousands of dollars each month, we all love to know that you’re seeing our work.

So please keep these things in mind the next time you use a blogger’s recipe, or you see one of our posts on social media: a “like”, double tap, smiley face, “thanks!” or a few words can make it all worthwhile for us to continue cooking and baking up a storm for you–it’s simple, we love what we do.

It’s just really nice to hear that you’re out there reading our words, appreciating our photography and using our recipes. I hope this post about commenting gives you a little perspective from my side.

Thanks for reading my post about commenting, and the commenting love–in advance. (New York cheesecake recipe from the photo below.)

Cheesecake with cherries and jam

Don’t miss another post! Click to sign up for my free recipe & travel subscription.

post about commentinga

Christina’s Cucina is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.

192 Comments

  1. I just came across this posting as I was reading your email newsletter on your daughter.. which by the way.. zowie.. thank you for the heads up info AND hugs to all who have experienced by way of sideways unknown allergen.
    .. back to the reason I’m posting. I started reading food blogs while recovering in hospital. It made me feel less isolated sterile and lost. Kitchens and happy mom’s at home who can do anything and photograph it like a pro..well that’s just inspiring. I rarely write because there are usually 299 previous comments , usually the usuals, and they all love whatever.. made the recipe–built that wall–crafted that thing.. superbly.. and I’m laying in a bed. Thinking.. what can I possibly add to all that? A mundane.. hey I loved it? After the 3rd or so time.. no one would even notice. It isn’t those posts you quoted here am I right.. it’s those .. I’ve done.. I’ve learned.. blah..that even I enjoy reading.

    There is a certain ego I still poses so.. I just read on. Smile to myself.. mentally preparing each recipe when I can’t physically. And saving every recioe I love for… that rainy day.. my day when I can bask in the glow of.. I’ve learned.

    I have written to various bloggers when there posted something very close to my heart…or when I’ve noticed they are not “there” anymore.. which lately happens more than I like. Selfishly each blog is like a room in a home that you enjoy.. and then the door closes.. and it’s a hollow space .
    I’ve written to those.. and a few wrote back. I was .. surprised. . But more.. thrilled. I mattered. This little voice . A no one .. and they wrote back. I count those people as truly elegant souls.

    Like you. Tho you have written to me, you do answer people in comments and by way of this post.. you share that you care. We may all be faceless.. some of us voiceless.. but you acknowledge. . We’re here and that it matters.. more than the dollar more than the numbers.. because you began a blog to speak to us as it were.. and in any given conversation you enjoy having us “speak ” with you.

    I hope your audience always listens with their hearts and speaks kindly with their keyboard! For as long as you’re happy .
    ~Blue

    1. Dear Blue, I can’t even tell you how much your comment means to me. It actually made me tear up, and that’s the first time that’s happened with a blog comment! The first thing I want to say to you is that NO ONE is a no one. Just because someone is famous or rich or noticeable, doesn’t make them more valuable. I’m sorry to hear that you had some health issues, and hope you are no longer recovering in the hospital.

      You are correct, I do value my readers which is why I won’t “sell out” and promote brands I don’t believe in, or tell you to buy a product, whether it is an ingredient or an appliance, that I wouldn’t buy myself. I choose to do posts that might not be popular, but that I feel strongly about. I honestly think readers can tell who is honest, and who is out to make a quick buck, and if I don’t stay true to myself, then my readers will know it immediately and I will have lost everything I have gained. I do love to hear from my readers, and truly appreciate you reaching out to tell me how you feel, Blue. I’m so happy that you did.

      I too hope that my audience listens with their hearts and speak kindly with their keyboards! What a lovely way to phrase it! Hope you are better, and thank you so much for this wonderful comment! <3 Christina

  2. Christina, I’m new to your blog, visiting for the first time today. How can it be that, of the two posts I’ve read so far, they both could have been written by me?! We are definitely on the same wavelength! Thank you for this post; I’ll be tweeting about it now.

  3. Christina, I couldn’t have said any more than you have. So well put! Thank you for the read and the inspiration. I make absolutely nothing from my blog and don’t even have any advertising. I know, what’s the point of blogging, then? Because it’ a hobby and so yes, when someone comments it means the world to us. By the way, this post must have taken ages to prepare. I don’t know how you do it – just preparing the photos takes me forever, and that’s before the writing! Bravo. I am loving your site and wish I had discovered it sooner. Better late than never.

    1. Thanks so very much, Jill! I am honored and humbled by your comments. Yes, my posts take me a long time as I really try to post quality over quantity. I’m so glad you found me too, or else I wouldn’t have discovered your lovely blog, either, and I’m always happy to connect with someone from home! :) CC

  4. If you stopped blogging and posting recipes you could make pefiteroles all day. Then you could give them all to me and cousin Dave. Then we might send you thank you notes. Everyone knows thank you notes are better than comments any day. Pefiteroles aren’t for everyone so if Christina gives you some I recommend not eating them. Just send them to Cousin Dave instead. He might send you a thank you note then.

    1. Hahaha! Of course YOU would comment on my Cream Puff post, Jon! :) I’ll let you know if I ever start a profiterole company…you never know! CC

  5. I am late to the game after 114 comments. Wow! You’ve set your commenting on fire with your excellent reporting about being a food blogger. I attribute the low amount of comments I receive on my blog to thinking people are too shy or want to be private. Hard to believe in the world of Facebooking every detail of their lives! That being said, I yearn to know whether people made my recipes and if they worked out for them. Friends do give me updates in person or even email me about their successes. I ask them to post their review in my comments, but it never happens. C’est la vie!

    1. Isn’t that funny, Patricia? A post about commenting and I have 115 comments now! Yes, it would be lovely to hear from those readers who have made our recipes and learn what worked for them, if they made any changes or anything they could tell us, really! As you said, c’est la vie! :( CC

  6. What a great post. I would love to not care about comments, but sometimes I can’t help it and I become obsessed with the subject. That’s when I go through the blogs I follow and click on “unfollow.” Because there should be give and take. Sure it takes time to comment, but its important, and this blogging thing shouldn’t be one-sided. On the plus side, I’ve actually met four bloggers in person, and that has been so much fun. And that’s why the commenting is important. The people who don’t are really missing out in that food blogger community that develops from the communication.

    1. Very good points, Mimi! I agree, there should be a give and take and no relationship works when it’s only one-sided. I also agree that it’s so much fun to meet bloggers in person after “getting to know them” on their sites! Glad you stopped by! I appreciate your thoughts! CC

  7. Your eloquence in portraying what so many bloggers secretly feel is both stunning and inspiring. I am so grateful for all of your hard work that you put into your blog, and for your willingness to share so much of yourself with your readers. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Christina!

Comments are closed.